Living and loving with your whole heart means letting go of comparison. This is so difficult. It means practicing contentment, right where you are, with what you have.
The biggest areas of discontentment for me typically involve feeling like I don’t measure up. I’ve noticed that this gets worse when I am on social media too much, or when I don’t practice gratitude on a regular basis. I start to compare myself to people I don’t know (and people that I do know in real life) when I am on social media. This is so dangerous. On social media, people only show the side of you that they want you to see.
They appear to have a better marriage.
She is prettier than me.
Look how much he loves his wife–he said so on Facebook.
Their family is so perfect, so functional.
She has more Instagram followers, so she must be a better blogger than me.
They have a big house and a nice car.
She is skinnier than me.
I find it really easy to compare myself to people that I do life with when I am not staying intentional about remembering all that I have to be grateful for.
She has her life together. I surely don’t, in comparison.
They are so involved in their community and have really found their place to belong. We aren’t, in comparison.
He sent her flowers to work. I didn’t get anything special today, in comparison.
Her house is always so neat and organized; how does she do it? I am a terrible housekeeper, in comparison.
I want to stop comparing. Stop feeling like I don’t measure up. I want to start feeling free from the comparison trap. Start believing that I am enough–where I am, with what I have.
How about you? How do you feel about yourself when you are comparing yourself to others? What can you remember to be grateful for today? Let’s stop comparing and start living life, just as we are, with what we have. And believe that we are enough. That our very life is beautiful.
Love, Ali xo
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I'm Ali. I write about my journey of living a full and healthy life with food allergies, overcoming the comparison trap, and cultivating authenticity.